Why I don't care about losing weight for my wedding

Before I start I'm going to explain myself a little bit, in my opinion there is a BIG difference between encouraging people to lead a healthy life style and FAT shaming. Ive never been small, I was a chubby kid and lost weight when I was about 14 at which time I was about average size for most people my age, eventually I did gain weight again and to be honest I did struggle with the idea of it for a while. Then one day it hit me, why was I worried? I met my now fiancé' at my highest dress size so evidentially he didn’t care what size I was and to be honest if he could love me how I was, why couldn't I?
I questioned this for a while then I realised actually I wasn't too bothered about my size, I was more concerned about what other people would think about me. After this revelation I was so pleased with myself for finally accepting who I am and not torturing myself about why “I'm not losing weight”. Whether it was this that made me see things in a new light or if it was an extreme coincidence but suddenly a lot of “fat shaming” began landing in front of me.

It began with off handed comments of “when you lose weight for your wedding” or “oh well we will see how you look in that dress when you drop a size or two” suddenly I began to realise that people seem to only think you can get married if you are the picture perfect-straight off of the movie-bride. When I began saying “No I'm not too bothered about losing weight” people either looked shocked or their faces would soften with pity and I would get the “No of course not, but everyone likes to look nice on their wedding day” ultimately making anyone think that they wont look nice if they didn’t squeeze into a smaller dress. If someone wants to lose weight before their wedding-good for them! Genuinely, if they're doing it for themselves thats great-my issue is when people are guilt tripped into it or made to feel like less of a person. I'm a big believer in people being able to do what they want to do on their wedding day, so how come I'm being told I'm wrong about this? I'm not prepared to lose weight just so other people feel comfortable with me getting married.

My next point brings me to the amazing, torturous pinterest. I love pinterest-I've been using it for years and I jumped at the chance to use it for wedding planning, I have found loads of great ideas on there; however a couple of days ago on the recommended page the very first pin read “how not to look fat at your wedding” immediately I laughed borderline hysterically. What a sales technique, make an impactful title like that and get every bride to be think “oh my gosh I cant look fat on my wedding day” I've also had people tell me tales of wedding markets and how they have been cake tasting and stepped away from the stall to immediately find a weight loss stall. Women are being made to feel inadequate no matter their size just so people in the industry can make a quick buck on us panicking about whether or not we can fit into a size 8 dress. I'm not going to lose weight specifically for my wedding, and I refused to be guilt tripped into doing so. If I choose to lose weight it'll be my choice to do so and it will be for my life in general not just so people wont judge me on one day I should be happy. I wont look back on my wedding photos and remember how hungry I was for months or how much I cried on the scales every day and think “well at least my stomach looks a bit less fat but I could of done better” instead Im going to look back and remember how the night before we all went out for some food and had a great time and how I enjoyed the run up to the wedding (even the stress of it which wasn't made worse by the fact I would of sky dived naked-for a bite of a burger).
So yeah I'm just going to be me whatever size I am and I won't be depriving my fiancé' of food containing calories just so I wont crave whatever he eats (personally I think I'm quite a good cook-you can tell my the size of my ass). So if you're one of the bride to be's thats being ambushed by fad diets and fat shaming-and you're considering losing weight just ask yourself:
-Are you doing it for you or everyone else?
-Will you be happy?
Because at the end of the day It's your and your husband to be's day and not everyone else's. Now I'm going to go and eat a snack because I want to :)